here's nbc's john yang. [ bells toll ] >> reporter: in newtown, connecticut, it was a day of lingering heartache. empty stockings now filled with gift. first responders gave their time so the town's police could spend the day with their family. >> just the right thing to do. that's why we're here. something needs to be done and we're glad to be here. >> it's a pleasure helping out. >> police officers giving police officers time off, you couldn't ask for a better christmas gift. >> reporter: in the new york area where thousands are without homes because of hurricane sandy, volunteers are there. handing out toys, food and blankets at relief centers. >> for people to come out and help people, you can't put a price on that, you can't buy that. >> reporter: in places with direct tragedy, americans mark the day in their own ways while keeping those less fortunate in their thought 3s. >> when people are suffering, going through hardships, many, many people come to offer their help in whatever they can do. >> reporter: across the nations, americans attended church services and spent time with